You need to forgive someone or something, right?
Maybe somebody has even told you that you need to do some forgiveness.
Maybe you have just reached the point that everything else isn’t working and maybe its time to try this forgiveness stuff.
Sure, you’re at the point where you are willing to look at forgiveness, but HOW??? How do you forgive? What do you do to forgive? How does this forgiveness stuff even work?
Ok, you need to forgive…but you still feel angry, hurt, upset. How do you change these painful feelings inside of you?
The good news – real forgiveness can change those very painful feelings. It can give you a complete change in perception of the whole situation, which is nothing less than a miracle. It can change the situation from cringingly painful to freeing and powerful.
However, you will need to put in some work. It’s not difficult, and the biggest obstacle may be yourself.
How to Forgive
Step One – Be willing
All forgiveness begins with a willingness to forgive.
This may be the most important step. Being willing to forgive sends a message to the Universe that you are willing to see things differently, and from here the Universe can start working for you.
To do this step, say aloud or to yourself “I am willing to forgive ____”
Next, give it time. It won’t happen instantly, but you have set the wheels in motion with a higher power.
Step two – find a forgiveness technique that works for you
We are so fortunate to be living in a time when we have access to so many forgiveness techniques and tools. A quick search will help you find many.
Step two is trying different forgiveness techniques until you find the one that fits you and your situation. Just having that forgiveness meditation or worksheet is not enough. You actually need to start it. Don’t worry if you don’t get through it all on your first (second or even tenth) try. You are learning a new skill, and it will take time. You don’t have to do anything “perfectly.”
Give any of the following forgiveness techniques a try:
- Ho’oponopono (see my post on this)
- Any tools from Radicalforgiveness.com especially the forgiveness worksheets
- A forgiveness meditation. There are many out there. Try a meditation by Doreen Virtue at angeltherapy.com
- You can even try a cord cutting meditation. Again try Doreen Virtue at angeltherapy.com
- Writing letters (but don’t send!) Write an angry letter to the person you want to forgive or an angry letter to the Universe (God, or the Higher Power you are comfortable with.) Wait a few days and write another. Write as many times as you need to get the energy out. DO NOT SEND THESE LETTERS. These are for you to work through your thoughts and feelings, not for anyone else.
- Praying to the Higher Power you feel comfortable with